Katie July 17, 2012, 9:42 am
We agree to you… i dunno. Its difficult. I recently know personally i couldnt just let the lady glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone i am.
Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my option to attempt to communicate with her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:50 am july
As well as, exactly just exactly what can you want to bet that he’s feeding their brand new gf your whole “crazy ex” routine to spell out why they talk most of the time? And was operating into one another actually just a coincidence?
Nadine July 17, 2012, 9:52 am
I am able to realise why you’ll believe that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We see the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, perhaps maybe maybe not the ex-BF relationship that is current. Thats just a complicator. The LW can simply get a handle on her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and annoying that is being. New GF to his relationship is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls don’t need to be buddies at all. It can you need to be yet another connect to the man for the LW, that is attempting to cut emotional ties.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:54 am
Thats a point that is good sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I accustomed be friends using this band of guys whom accustomed have such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy i’d get really surprised, cos they seemed so normal to me on them after a couple of weeks and? Then it ended up being realised by me personally wasn’t the girls, its the inventors. In addition to girls had been all people that are just normal, you understand, desired to determine if that they had a boyfriend or not…….
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am
Yea. Its like, when that occurs enough times- what’s the typical denominator? YOU WILL BE!!
I do feel harmful to this GF that is new. She deserves to possess a guy’s complete attention. And she deserves a man who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW due to the fact man is telling her a couple of crap about her. Its simply all incorrect. The whole thing.
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:09 am
Personally I think bad on her too, but she has to be aware of by herself. Its difficult being the first gf after a long relationship, but that is why many people go into these with their eyes spacious. Oh and the guy has to quit dropping “But We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the real means the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, perhaps you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:25 am
Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he is just looking for a reaction everytime he says it that he has a GF. He wishes the LW become like “well I don’t care if you do have a GF, i am going to nevertheless blow you” or “Dump that skank, and come back to me”
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:27 am
Yea, its like whenever i was in senior school and me personally and my boyfriend would separation every single other week, in which he would “accidently” text me personally or something like that just therefore we would fight and obtain straight back together.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 2:45 pm
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and acquire right straight back together”
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 10:05 am
I’ve said right right here a great deal, if the man whips out of the word “crazy” I operate one other means. I understand therefore lots of men whom utilize that word to full cover up due to their dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
We don’t understand why individuals would phone somebody crazy when you look at the beginning. I recently state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The very fact which you place a “crazy” label upon it, makes me think you may well be one that loves to stir the muck.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Additionally, you could be kinda crazy as well if you are willing to call someone crazy, wouldn’t that mean?
Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july
Therefore real! When the “crazy” comes down, Im operating one other method. I believe it had been stated above- whenever you attract the crazy, the denominator that is common constantly YOU, friend.
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:21 am july
To be honest, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely could be upset about any of it too, yet somehow she will continue to respond to this dudes calls despite the fact that he keeps saying that he’s dreaming about her, and all sorts of of that bull shit.
Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 10:26 am july
Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk for this woman because your simply likely to cause drama. You need to just understand he’s maybe not your boyfriend as well as if you nevertheless like his attention, the reality that you understand he’s a gf is causing you to a poor man in this too.
Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july
This is certainly a point that is great you dudes. I didnt consider it like this.
So LW, if you probably do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, keep them alone!! Like eljay (I like you, eljay) said, some body has got to end up being the adult in this case. If he could be maybe not ready to be, you need to do it.
Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm
Amen bestie – we trust you about talking into the gf. That knows exactly what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their chatting frequently, but although the relationship is none of these company, the fact that the LW while the brand new gf have actually met now i do believe enables the LW some freedom. That I had heard about and wanted to get along with (I’m going to assume that the LW wants that? ) and it went horribly, I might reach out and go, hey, I’m so sorry that went badly if I had been in a situation where a friend brought someone around. She does not fundamentally need to say, “Hey, so that your boyfriend happens to be saying that is___ in my opinion and he’s the main one calling, in which he explained you’re ok with this particular, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly, I happened to be beneath the impression you had been fine with this being buddies, but i simply knew I’m perhaps maybe not fine with your being friends either, therefore it’s not an issue anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 9:37 am july
I’dn’t keep in touch with the gf concerning this. I would want is their ex of 3 years reaching out to me if I were dating someone for two months the last thing. And merely to share with you you respect her dating site sdc relationship? I’d think you had been bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Just just Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex lover you don’t desire to hear from him for a time, then keep them alone. Actually they probably won’t workout them work that out themselves because you are still in the picture (which doesn’t do great things for a new relationship), but let.
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:39 am
Oh in addition, that we leave immediately if I were the new girlfriend and my bf and I ran into his ex at a bar I would also demand. It is therefore uncomfortable. Everybody else pretends they can be “mature” and remain buddies with exes and stay completely ok whenever your SO’s ex appears, but why? You don’t have actually become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of three years.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am